It makes the most sense to share my own Journey about Pregnancy, Birth & Beyond right from the start. After all, I’m sure you all want to know my birth story about becoming a Mama so you know the physical, emotional & spiritual foundation that sets the tone for this blog.
So here it goes…
***Warning: The contents of the following blog post are Raw, Honest & may be Traumatic for some readers. The content of this birth story and journey may be a trigger to families who have dealt with unexpected birth plan outcomes. Please do not read on if you have trauma or residual anxiety related to your own (past or upcoming) labor and delivery experiences. I say this warning because, pregnancy and birth is Hard, really really Hard, but also incredibly transforming no matter the outcome. Please pause and take a few breaths to choose whether or not to Read on**
First, this Post as well as Blog is dedicated to all the Mama’s out there and for our babies both on Earth as well as in Heaven. Motherhood is beautifully chaotic, and I’m thankful for the Initiation.
So here’s my Birth Story of how I was blessed enough to bring my Son Earthside after 30+ hours of labor and a Surprise Belly Birth.
P.S. I have also embedded different songs for each part of my Story, so be sure to enjoy these as well. Each song added has much significance to that part of my journey!
+First Pregnancy Tests+
I guess I should start with our Journey in preparation of becoming pregnant. After 2 years of marriage Frankie and I decided that we would start trying at the end of the summer of 2017. In preparation for becoming pregnant a few things shifted. I changed my diet (goodbye Vegetarianism and toxic/harmful household and personal care products (yes, this means even deodorant), hello prenatal vitamins and very specific meditations about connecting with the Soul of your future children (Sounds “woo woo” I know, but seriously check out the book Spirit Babies and then we’ll talk), I joined an incredible community through the Fertility Friday Community (Seriously, if you don’t know what this is- visit FertilityFriday.Com and have your mind blown). I joined a 10 week group course in which me and a handful of other women were preparing to conceive or trying to conceive. I felt SO confident once we were ready to start trying to conceive as I learned all things about how our cycles as Women are literally like the 5th vital sign. I gained not only confidence, but a true sense of body literacy that we never get in high school or even from our OB/GYN’s. It was incredible. So much so, that when the time came I was able to tell that I conceived even before the first positive pregnancy test thanks to good ol’ Basal Body Temperature rising and remaining high among other signs. Thankfully we were Blessed with becoming pregnant only after 2 short months of trying. There were so many signs that this little Soul had made himself known to us even before the positive pregnancy test, from rapid heart races, to crazy heartburn to an incredible visit from dragonflies and butterflies the weekend we conceived. I took even the idea of pregnancy Very seriously, not just for the physical implications on my body, on my marriage, but spiritually. I see pregnancy and motherhood as such a Sacred act of service in this life, that I desired to be at such a place or “frequency” spiritually to ensure that it was a good “fit” so to speak if we were to become pregnant. Every decision and action leading up to our sweet babies conception was very intentional. “Motherhood is a Calling on your life, not a hobby.” I surprised Frankie with an Epic pregnancy announcement of a onesie, personalized gifts, star wars theme song playing in the background with a positive pregnancy test. All because, this meant based on when my last period was (7/28/2017), our sweet child would be due May 4th, 2018 (May the 4th be with you!) We then surprised our parents on both of our Mother’s Birthdays in August & September which was so special.
I knew the type of Birth I desired as well as the type of prenatal an postpartum care. After much researching, reading birth stories, talking to many Mama’s, and meeting a few different providers I decided to go with having my birth at a local hospital under the care of a Midwife along with the support of a Doula. I choose to give birth at Huntington Hospital under the care of Huntington Midwifery and the support of Doula Kristina Boccio from WeBirthNY. The term “Midwife” comes from the term/meaning “With Woman.” It’s a different type of approach to birth versus an OB/GYN in regards to their training. Midwives approach birth as a natural phenomenon that has been occurring for thousands of years and truly see that the less disturbed the birthing process is, the healthier and more pleasurable the outcome for both baby and Mama. Where as the OB’GYN’s I met were specialized in seeing birth more often than not as pathology, as something that need to be managed from beginning to end. They are skilled surgeons too don’t forget, and thank God for them as well! Midwives specialize in low risk pregnancies and deliveries and their aim is to support Any Type of Birth (natural, med free, epidural, induction, c-section), but they just cannot do the actual surgery should a C-Section be needed, but they would be in the Operating Room (OR) and be there every step of the way. I felt confident choosing such as incredible Birth Team from the first consult I had with them (which I did all pre-pregnancy) and felt comfortable being in a medical/hospital setting in case there were complications (so thankful I listened to my gut on this one!)